3-year-old Luke doesn’t usually leave his room at night, but he asks for lots of things — water, potty, hugs, blanket, different books, etc when we’ve already handled all those things when we put him to bed initially. So we adapted the rules to include not only leaving the bedroom, but also calling Mom or Dad. It wouldn’t be so bad except sometimes the requests go on for hours when he should be sleeping, and his loud talking and yelling keeps 22-month-old Lilah, whose room is right beside his, awake and upset. Then Lilah ends up making requests of her own to mimic big brother. Lilah also has been known to leave her room a time or two at night.
Luke was the first to get his door closed a bit–he said he had to potty again. On the way back to his room, all on his own he told his dad that his door would have to close to the next piece of tape. Luke went on to explain what would happen after that and after that, so it was clear that he definitely “got” it. He wasn’t upset at all about the door; it was like these rules had been in place forever and it was all very diplomatic.
Lilah got it, too, because as we were putting her to bed, she kept saying, “Door open!”
Luke proceeded to use his 2nd tape mark by having me remove a toy from his bed that he no longer wanted and then his 3rd when he called me back in to wrap him up. I snuck in lots of extra hugs and kisses, and he didn’t make a peep as I closed his door for the night. (Note, I did make sure to tell the kids that we wouldn’t come back in to their rooms any more once the door shut UNLESS there was an emergency. I didn’t want them to think we wouldn’t come back if something was really wrong!!!)
Lilah, on the other hand, does not like having her door closed, so she only used one tape mark by asking for water. Then she laid down on her bed and let me wrap her up.
I think Luke liked knowing that he could ask for things 3 times, almost like we had given him passes to use. He seemed to plan out what he wanted and he was okay with the consequence of having the door shut. I think it was sort of a closing of the door/closing of the day for him. 🙂
Lilah on the other hand, viewed the shutting of the door as a very negative thing, so she stayed in her room and only called for us once because she strongly prefers her door be left open.
It’s funny that both kids used the Tape Trick in different ways, yet both ways led to the solution that we wanted — 2 kids laying quietly in their beds!
This was one of the quickest and quietest nights yet! Thanks, Prudent Baby!
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